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“Alcohol is one of the only things people feel they have to justify not taking — and learning how to navigate that confidently is something I help my clients with.”
Jackie Banks
Jackie - Sober Lifestyle
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My story

Hi, I'm Jackie. For many years, alcohol was just part of my routine. Like so many people, it started socially and over time became something I relied on to unwind after a busy day.

By my forties, it had become second nature to pour a glass of wine as soon as I got home. It felt like a reward for the day I’d had. Sometimes just being at work felt like enough of a reason.

But one was never really enough. One glass would turn into more, and I’d wake up the next morning feeling tired, groggy and not quite myself.
“From the outside everything looked fine, but inside, I didn’t feel like myself.”
At the time, I didn’t question it. I genuinely believed the wine was helping me cope. I didn’t realise I’d got myself into a bit of a cycle — drinking to relax, then feeling worse the next day and doing the same thing all over again.

Everything changed when I found out I was going to become a Nanny. I wanted to be a better version of myself, to be fully involved from the very beginning, and to feel trusted. That was really important to me.

That was the moment I had a reason to stop and properly look at my relationship with alcohol.

What surprised me most was what happened next. I’d convinced myself I needed alcohol to sleep, so I fully expected that first night to be a struggle, lying awake and not being able to switch off.

But the complete opposite happened. I slept really well.

The next morning, I woke up early feeling good. I got up, got things done, and I actually wanted to do them. I felt proud of myself, which was a feeling I hadn’t had in a long time.

It honestly felt like I’d been given a whole day back. Instead of starting the week already behind, I felt organised, in control, and ready for it.

Over time, everything started to improve. I had more energy, I felt more like myself again, and things that used to feel overwhelming didn’t feel quite so big anymore. Life without alcohol didn’t feel like I was missing out. It just felt easier, calmer and a lot more enjoyable.

A couple of years later, after seeing just how much my life had changed, I knew I wanted to give something back and help other women who might be feeling the way I had been.

Today, I support women who feel stuck in that in-between place, not out of control, but not feeling their best either, to feel more confident, more in control, and able to enjoy life without relying on alcohol.

Because if you’re feeling ashamed or thinking you just need “a little bit of help”, please know this: you’re not alone, and it’s not your fault.
What will start to feel different
Working together isn’t about being perfect. It’s about helping things feel easier, calmer, and more in control day to day.
Over time, this will look like:
Waking up feeling rested and ready for the day
Feeling more in control of your drinking (or choosing not to drink at all)
Having more energy and a clearer head
Feeling less anxious and more steady emotionally
Being able to handle stress without relying on alcohol
Feeling more confident in social situations
No longer having that constant “should I / shouldn’t I” conversation in your head
Feeling more like yourself again
This is often where things start to feel possible again.
Jackie
“I didn’t need to have it all figured out. I just needed to begin.”
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Let's get started

To help you decide what feels right, here are a few ways we can begin working together.
Initial chat – £35
A first conversation to talk things through and see what support might feel like.
This is redeemable against your first session.

Single session – £45
A focused 1:1 session to explore what’s going on and find your next steps.
Ideal if you’re ready to get started and see how it feels.
Ongoing support (8 sessions) – £350
A series of sessions for steady, supportive change over time.
Best if you want consistent support rather than one-off sessions.

If you’re not sure which option is right, that’s completely okay. We can talk it through together.
If this feels like you, and you’re ready to take the next step, we can talk about what support might look like.
No pressure, no expectations. Just a conversation about where you are and what might help.
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Who I help

“I expected it to be hard… but I actually felt better than I had in a long time.”

I work with women who, from the outside, look like they’re coping, but inside feel like something isn’t quite right.

You might be juggling work, family life, and everything in between, and by the end of the day, a glass of wine feels like your way to switch off and relax.

At first, it feels like a reward. But over time, you may have started to notice that one glass often turns into more, and instead of helping, it’s leaving you feeling tired, anxious, or not quite yourself the next day.

You don’t see yourself as having a “problem”, but you might feel stuck in a pattern that’s hard to shift.
You might recognise some of these feelings:
You rely on alcohol to unwind at the end of the day
You sometimes drink more than you planned to
You wake up feeling groggy, tired, or disappointed in yourself
You’ve started to question whether alcohol is actually helping
You want to feel more in control, but you’re not sure where to start
If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone, and you’re exactly who I can support.

“I didn’t think I had a problem — I just knew something didn’t feel quite right.”

What you want instead

Most of the women I work with aren’t looking for a complete life overhaul. They just want to feel better day to day.
They want to:
wake up feeling rested and ready for the day
feel more in control of their choices
handle stress and emotions without relying on alcohol
feel more like themselves again
enjoy life without that constant back-and-forth in their head
That’s what we work towards together, in a way that feels realistic, supportive, and completely judgement-free.

What working with me looks like

Taking the first step can feel daunting, but you won’t be doing it alone. My coaching is gentle, supportive, and completely judgement-free.

1. A relaxed first conversation

We start with a chat, either in person or over the phone, where you can share what’s been going on and how alcohol is currently showing up in your life. There’s no pressure, just a chance for us to understand each other and decide if working together feels right.

2. Understanding what you want to change

Everyone’s goals are different. Some people want to stop drinking completely, while others want to reduce their intake and regain control. Together we’ll talk about what you want your relationship with alcohol to look like and set realistic, supportive goals.

3. Learning how to handle triggers and cravings

We’ll explore the situations, habits and emotions that can lead to drinking, and develop practical ways to manage them. This might include coping strategies for stress or anxiety, as well as new routines that support a healthier lifestyle.

4. Building confidence in real life situations

We’ll explore the situations, habits and emotions that can lead to drinking, and develop practical ways to manage them. This might include coping strategies for stress or anxiety, as well as new routines that support a healthier lifestyle.

5. Ongoing support and encouragement

Most importantly, you’ll never feel like you’re doing this on your own. I understand the challenges because I’ve been there myself, and my role is to offer empathy, support, and guidance every step of the way.
Jackie - Sober Lifestyle
“I support women who feel stuck in that in-between place, not out of control, but not feeling their best either, to feel more confident, more in control, and able to enjoy life without relying on alcohol.”
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If you’re starting to question your relationship with alcohol, you don’t have to work it out on your own. I offer a relaxed, no-pressure conversation where you can talk openly about how things are feeling right now. From there, we can see what kind of support would feel right for you.
If you’d like to take that first step, you’re very welcome to get in touch.
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Coaching is a supportive, forward-focused process designed to help you feel more in control of your choices and build a healthier relationship with alcohol. It is not therapy, counselling, or medical treatment, and is not a substitute for professional healthcare support.

T: 07843411852 | E: jackie@soberlifestyle.co.uk
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